the "IT" factor

I am haunted by years of English grammar for the usage "it." The vagueness this pronoun possess, indirectly refers to a previously mentioned subject, also known as an "anticedent" (see i still remember!). In any rate, upon determining greatness, I keep hearing that the person has to have this "it"-factor. All those episodes of "American Idol" or "Making the Band" where judges determine: this person's got "it."

What is this factor and quality that must exist? Several avenues blur past my mind as i think about "it."

I've had the unfortunate experience where a guy I was dating said ending our relationship stating that "it" wasn't enough. Sounds heartbreaking (and it was at the time), however, let's explore this ... must learn from your past to get to your future right? Right.

Now let's take how or why 2 people come together to formulate a relationship: they meet; they make emotional/physical connections; they become a couple. The "it"-factor delineates that a romantic relationship between 2 people is a combination of mutual attraction/respect, openness for a relationship, and a blinding trust in the other.

At times, there is the case in which all these factors appear to be in your favor: you are attracted to the person and you have a great time with them ... in fact, there's nowhere else you'd rather be. And yet, even you, know deep down something's missing: the "it"-factor. Some people are baffled by couples who seemingly aren't compatible or physically complementary are together, and they ask themselves, "how does that work?".
The answer is, "it" just works. We're not sure how, when or why ... but when you come across the person that belongs to you, you will just know "IT."

Star Maps

Stars, constellations, falling stars, the night sky ... one of my favorite things to do since childhood was to look up to these brilliant masses of gas and light and just wonder about the world. I would pretend the moon followed me wherever i went. The summer before I entered high school, I made a wish I'd make the varsity volleyball team on a falling star. When I look up, it's this calming and sense of enwonderment that makes me hopeful.

Perphaps, in a more religious sense, it is to look to God for some direction. In nautical terms, sailors traditionally used the stars to map their course at night. However, at times, I dont know what the heck I am are looking up there for. I dont know which constellation I am looking at ... and realize - "I hadn't the faintest idea how the night sky might serve as a road map. How could stars, sparkle as they might, help me find my way if they keep moving? (The Life of Pi, 193)." My life, in that moment, was clearly and concisely defined in those 2 sentences. I guess on this road of life, we're only suppose to look back upon where we've been and keep creating the rest as we go along.

No one person can predict what will exactly happen in their life or others. Parents and loved ones can earnestly hope that you take your life in one direction because they want the best for you. But it's not so simple. A friend of mine once said, "greatness doesnt happen without hardwork." Every single person on this planet can do anything if they truly want it. If you have the mindset and the passion, you will succeed.

Smarty Pant Moment

i believe that every event has a certain place and time ... we just cant see the plan :-)

my inspiration: 'serendipity'

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