Don't know which one I've had

Good is good and bad is bad. But you don't know which one you've had. -Sheryl Crow

When I think about it, this has been a very stressful year. I went from being happy to having had a lot of things fall apart. It makes me wonder if being happy at the time was just a bandaid ... something to hide the root of the problem.

Sheryl Crow's song previously reminded me to keep the good things and the bad things separate, so that I can remember the good and move forward from the bad. But that second line dawned on me this morning ... what if I cannot tell which was what? What if the good was really bad and vice versa. I don't know ... I always feel like I am learning this big lession, but I always feel like I am struggling. I want to ENJOY my life ... I think I've learned to love someone else so much that I forgot to love my own life.

Living the "single life" again has been quite the experience ... much more idiotic things have happened since the last time. It's pointed out to me what I had, what I didn't have, and what I want. Too bad they're all in different people.

I am hoping for a change in the tide. Somehow reinvent myself for true success and happiness. Until then, my search continues ...

just checking in

it's been very crazy since I returned from my China trip...
i wonder if i will ever have a normal routine again. the instability worries me. i feel like since everything around me is so uncontrolled because I am not controlling anything.

i honestly miss him. but there are so many things that are so unreasonable to me. he broke my heart and made me so disillusioned about life that i dont even know what to do. how does one say that it's ok that he doesnt want me to move in, doesnt believe in marriage, and wants me to wait for him? that makes no sense.

i just want things to go my way ... i miss the warmth in my life. i still feel so lost. i just want to be whole again.

thank you for listening. i didnt know who else to turn to.

The "Before 30 Bucket List"- Part 1

In 2.55 years, I would like to accomplish:

1. Complete a full Ironman
2. Clear credit card debit
3. Zip-linging in Costa Rica
4. See Auroa Borealis with my own eyes
5. Greece/Spain/Italy
6. Petra/Egypt
7. Ride from San Francisco to LA

... to be continued

Reality bites

reality rushing over me like a brisk cold wave of emotion ... i can feel the hurt setting in as it decides to postulate at the bottom of my stomach. it was only a matter of time before the hurt came to overtake me. it's amazing what people will do to numb the pain- to distract, avoid, prolong the inevitable ... hoping to somehow skip to the part where it all feels better.

it just doesn't make sense anymore.

Something to meditate on

Love is just love.

all over the map with a destination

i know i say this often, especially when times feel like their darkest ... or at least some variant of this but here goes:
hope. in hope there is faith. in faith there is the true essence of love.

today i realized i've gone from feeling fantastic! to ... just fine.

it's actually shocking how easily you can live for someone instead of with someone. i lived the past 9 months for someone in order to follow a dream. but as i am slowly dissecting now, i see that we were chasing different dreams. him, taking a leap in career; me, taking a leap of love. somehow, this fantasy of ours became muddled in time changes and call times and new changes each to their own. distance = doomed? i guess we both had to find out for ourselves.

some of my closest friends comment of how much i've grown emotionally and how much of "a champ" i am for taking things the way that i am. i am sad ... of course i will miss him, but most of all, i will miss how we love each other. our love was the kind that was unique ... it was everything i had inside. i view this most recent break up as: ohhh ... so close // like losing a close game- good effort, but just wasn't enough today kiddo (story of my freaking life!)

in any rate, let the influx of post-breakup cliques flow through (none of which will help me feel better at this hour) ... but in all seriousness, i really wonder what these next few months will bring. i hope especially for internal peace and for me to rediscover what makes ME happy again. further down the road- i think it's safe to say that i need someone both emotionally AND physically available.

here's a quick little fantasy about the life that i want: laughter outside on a warm evening, stars, a firepit to light the night out on a beautiful deck, wine flowing, wonderful company, smiling. my life's goal now is to have both love & happiness to share ... to cherish ... to grow & flourish. oh, and let's not forget my completing-a-full-Ironman-triathlon-before-I-am-thirty thing ... :P

bursting at the seems

what's inspirational is seeing just absolute love pour out of someone. once it breaks open- it's joyous, beautiful, and amazing.

so i will not take offense when someone sees my heart on my shoulder, for at least i am filled with heart and emotion.

one can never hide the love in their heart.